4 Healthy toddler easter options…

By Deb Herdman

 

1.      Think healthy…add fruit!   Make a berry delicious chocolate dip…Gather a selection of strawberries, blueberries, blackberries even banana and mandarin segments.  Begin by melting a variety of dark, milk and white chocolate, in a microwave or double boiler.  Stir frequently and be careful not to let it burn!

 When melted, individually dip fruit into the melted chocolate and arrange on baking/ non-stick paper. Try coconut, ground almonds, or sprinkles for additional WOW factor. When chilled, serve on a platter for the grownups, or in pretty baskets for the kids.

 

2.     Limit the size.  For young kids, it’s all about the numbers.   Watch them count their stash…the more the merrier!  BUT think small!

Scatter tiny eggs around the house or garden for an Easter egg treasure hunt.  The kids’ will be delighted and think they have scored a massive amount of chocolate, but the small portions allow you much more control…you can be the ‘keeper and stash protector’, and hand out at intervals…At any rate it stops gorging and tummy ache!

 

3.     In addition to the eggs collected from the treasure hunt, give each child one, and only one, special egg. All in all it will be enough to satisfy their chocolate needs… and won’t break the bank for you.  If you are really lucky, the grand folks might even supply the ‘special’ one!

 

4.     Suggest to friends and family to give an alternate gift rather than chocolate.  A book, a small toy (bunnies are popular) or even clothing are all more productive choices than chocolate and last much longer, too!

 

My baby only feeds to sleep and I want to change that!

This is a common way of settling for many babies. 

It begins from day one when newborns fall asleep during feeding, wake and feed a bit more. 

It's a nice way to get to know your newborn, but this pattern can go on for a long long time.

Many mums love feeding to sleep in the first months after giving birth but reach a point when they feed and they just want their baby to sleep, without the need to feed to sleep.

Separating the sleep and feed tasks requires the baby to learn how to relax without suckling. 

SO HOW TO DO YOU DO THAT?

Here's how Claire solved learnt how to separate feeding and sleeping;

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Hi Deb! Just letting you know we used the Nigh Nigh Sleepy Head song finally... and Luci went to sleep without me feeding her to sleep.
And when I moved her to her cot I turned it back on and she went straight back to sleep. Magic!
Thank you! Wish we had used it earlier!

IF THAT'S WHAT YOU WANT, DO WHAT CLAIRE DID....

It's REALLY that simple!

I'm at my wit's end, says mum!

Let's face...we're only human!

As a mum and a young one with my first two children, I was often 'at my wits end'.  Becomimg a mother is the most wonderful experience but parenting is tough!

Every child is different and each personality, interaction and reaction had mico-moments that left me feeling a bit lost as to what to do. What works one day, doesn't work the next!

One think that I do know is I am NOT a good mum when I am tired! Our children are little for such a small amount of time, even though the days can feel awfully long! 

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But every day that is managed after a good night's sleep means you can be equipped to better deal with ANYTHING! 

Theadditional bonus is children are SO much easier when they aren't over-tired.

Chantelle McIntyre ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ – 5 stars
No longer is sleep time a stressful event for myself and Jude. Thanks to Nigh' Nigh' Sleepy Head Jude falls to sleep relaxed and peaceful and only waking once over night for a feed. Deb, you are a wonderful lady. I can’t thank you enough for all your support and encouragement.

A bit of a backstory I attended one of debs seminars at my wit's end, stressed and sleep deprived. I had tried to let Jude cry it out, but that just left myself, my husband and Jude stressed out! Nothing worse than hearing your baby cry. Jude would eventually give up crying and fall asleep but he wouldn’t stay asleep and would wake countless times overnight.

Memories Formed in Pregnancy Can Help Baby Sleep Better

Did you know babies are forming memory association before birth?

Your foetus has the ability to  remember sounds when hearing is developing and gaining pitch acuity,  from the second trimester.

If mothers were to play appropriate sleep music in the weeks prior to birth, babies would respond and be calmed after birth. This is evidence based. Many babies feed, SLEEP and have less episodes of colic or tummy upset.

Read the research

Such a simple solution and beautiful way to promote bonding, not to mention the amazing connections forming within the developing brain of the infant.

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Music is an ideal way to calm baby but it also relaxes mum and that means less cortisol and less circulating stress hormones.  

Parenting is Stressful

It's often commented that we need instruction manuals for just about everything. Have you assembled the cot yet? 

Becoming a parent can be totally mindblowing especially if you're the type of person that is normally 'in control' of everything.

Babies are not only changing everyday but give signals that can be incredibly frustrating to figure out. 

Is he wet?..No, 

Hungry?...no

Too hot/cold/need a cuddle/ in pain...What do you want baby?

Attending to the basic needs of hunger and comfort seems fairly simple but babies are influenced by their needs and environment. If you feel stressed, so will they. 

If you've missed their sign for sleep, they cry a lot. This leads to gulping air and often a colicky baby. Overtired babies often don't feed well and sometimes you overfeed because they like sucking. 

 

Happy parenting from Deb Herdman
Read the article from the link below.

My Child Refuses to Sleep in His Own Bed...I Need Help!

 There were four in the bed and the little one said...roll over!

There were four in the bed and the little one said...roll over!

This is a very common situation because children love the companionship of their parents. When co-sleeping has been a long-term practice, this is what your child has come to expect as normal. They don’t understand the reasoning behind you wanting to turf them out of the sleep space that satisfies all of their emotional needs, they love, and they feel completely safe in.

Attempting to dissuade your preschooler from the family bed is sure to evoke significant anxiety, confusion and a range of undesirable behaviours from screaming, tantrums, and simply flat-out refusal, to 101 reasons, why they need to sleep in your bed. 

On the flip side of this comes toddlers and older kids that sleep in their own room but suddenly decide mummy's bed is better. 

Certainly, either of these situations is stressful...you know you're going to have a bad nights sleep and usually, the surrounding angst with trying to get your toddler to sleep in their own bed is stressful for them.

The fact is you need to change a behaviour and the least amount of stress involved will yield the best result....sleep for everyone!

Consider 3 things...

1. Choose a strategy and STICK to it!

If cold turkey is your plan expect a lot of tears...you may well get them in their own beds BUT is the trauma to them and you worth it. Research suggests NO!

Depending on age, your older child, I mean 4, and over may cope really well with a designated night to 'Sleepover' in the parent bed. Be sure to make it a night when a little sleep deprivation on your part won't be detrimental to your next days' plans. 

Younger children need a lot of emotional support to develop sleep confidence and the ability to stay in their own bed. It's usually NEVER a one-step solution. If it was....you wouldn't be reading this!

2. Consistency

This is one of the things most difficult to achieve. Most parents start off well but children are NEVER going to settle if their emotional needs aren't being met. 

The usual scenario is you spend hours supporting them, taking them back to their own bed and when this goes on for a few night and your exhaustion catches up with you...you crumble and relent.

Let's be totally honest you'd do anything for a good night's sleep!

3. FUN!

If you can add a sense of fun and calmness to every waking moment, how do think your toddler would react?

I know you're thinking FUN? Aren't we trying to keep them asleep?

The way to create fun and a really positive approach to bedtime is to set the mood. When this is achieved children feel supported and less stressed. The tools and strategies that you use to create this, means that when they wake, they have support at hand and are able to resettle. 

When they develop that....you all get SLEEP!

Read the full article http://www.mouthsofmums.com.au/my-5-year-old-will-only-sleep-in-our-bed-its-driving-me-insane/

 

3 simple ways to get your toddler to sleep

Ensuring your child has a good nights sleep is always such a hot topic.  Should you let them cry it out? And if you give in to your instincts and comfort them do you create a permanent rod for your back?  Maybe co-sleeping or camping-in at the cost of your own night's sleep is the answer? And then there’s the myth that once baby learns the art of sleeping, there will be no more sleepless nights. The reality is your child is a growing, thinking responsive human being and just like you will have nights that they cannot relax to sleep.

So whether you have a dream sleeper who has an occasional fussy night or a cat-napper who takes hours to settle, these three steps contain the essential elements to help your child relax into a longer, deeper more settled sleep.

The three R’s for getting some Z’s…


ROUTINE

Not surprisingly the advice given to insomniac adults is equally true for children.  Set a routine, go to sleep and wake up at the same time every day. Routine is essential for your child as it establishes comforting predictability and a sense of safety.  Choose a bedtime and stick to it.  Research has shown a direct link between inconsistent bedtimes akin to jetlag. The UK study of 10,000 children from University College London found hyperactivity, behavioural and emotional disturbances worsen with age, if bedtime inconsistency is not addressed.

Your child’s bedtime ritual end-to-end should take no more than 20 minutes – a small investment for a big payoff.  Once your child gets to the stage of yawning and closing their eyes your job is done.  Push them past this point and they will become overtired inducing a hyperactive state or that all too familiar ‘bouncing off the walls.’

Although essential routine alone is often not enough…


RE-CONNECTION.  

Children need and want to be with parents. Gentle attentive parenting is about that connection and responsiveness between child and parent.  It promotes bonding and provides your child with emotional security hard-wiring your child’s brain to have the capacity to develop self-control and the ability to self-settle.

Don’t be afraid to spend a little time re-connecting and satisfying your child’s emotional needs. Some sleep techniques advise avoiding eye-contact and close touch, but as part of your bedtime routine don’t be afraid to be fully focused on your child.  Cuddle, pat, sing, hum, rock – whatever you feel helps them feel safe, secure and loved.

Re-connection is the secret to the third R…


RELAXATION.

Without achieving a state of relaxation your child can’t fall asleep. Many parents struggle with helping their child relax, spending hours trying, ending in frustration and anger on their part, and creating overtired, emotional children, ready to party all night long.

The essential ingredient in your child’s relaxed state is taking that time for re-connection, to fill their emotional cup.  Once your child feels connected they will be able to relax.  You can help them transition to a state of deep relaxation with gentle song, soft meditative music or a favourite cuddle toy or ‘blankie’.

Routine and re-connection to allow for relaxation, the three essential elements for helping your child sleep.  Deeply relaxed restorative sleep can be a reality for the whole family without having to resort to extreme solutions.  Why choose a stressful and distressing process when your baby or child’s bedtime can be gentle and nourishing for the whole family?

 

ways to get your toddler to sleep

Did you know babies are forming memory association before birth?

Your unborn has the ability to remember sounds when hearing is developing and gaining pitch acuity from the second trimester.

 If mothers were to play appropriate sleep music in the weeks prior to birth, babies would respond and be calmed after birth.

Such a simple solution and beautiful way to promote bonding, not to mention the neural connections forming within the developing brain of the infant that help develop resilience to stress later in life.

Music is an ideal resource for relaxing mums and dads as well.

Happy parenting from Deb Herdman

Read the article from the link below.

Babies form memories in-utero, study finds.